2 years, 6 months, 3 days, almost to the exact hour. That's how long it's been since Dylan was born. Subtract 8 days, and that's how long "the old Missy" has been gone. Over the past couple years I have heard multiple times from friends that they missed me, the old me. I've been told that I'm still the same person, by others. Truth is, I miss myself. I know I'm not that same person. It would be impossible to be. The old Missy knew life in a much more innocent, even naive way. She knew people died, even babies, but that would never happen to her. She didn't do anything to deserve something like that. Didn't most people create their own sadness? I didn't choose for Dylan to die. I didn't do anything, that I know of, to cause his death. I had a normal pregnancy like everyone else. I was excited, scared, and nervous, like everyone else. However, I didn't go into labor. I didn't get to be rushed to the hospital by Tom, dragging along a pillow and hospital bag, wondering how the birth would go. I was rushed by an ambulance- a ride I barely remember- and rushed even faster into an OR with a mask over my face and nurses furiously prepping me for surgery. I could have died. So could Dylan, that night. I am forever grateful that, by some miracle, he didn't, and I was given 8 amazingly emotional days with him. To say that I was forever changed by his birth, life and death is an understatement. I often think of the things I used to enjoy. I am physically, emotionally, and mentally a different person. I am stronger than you can imagine even when the tiniest memory can bring me to my knees. I live for my family and its future. I have never been a public speaker but somehow bring up immense courage when asked to talk in front of groups about Dylan and our subsequent loss of Shrimp. My family is proof that life throws you many curve balls. You have to change and adapt, and I guess that's what I have done. But I will probably always mourn the old Missy, just like I will always mourn Dylan. When he died, part of me did, too. I hope that the new part of me that was added, the one who sees life in a whole other way, can be an even better Missy.